Despite being sexually molested, Filled with Shame and Fear, I became Uncrushable! – So can YOU!
Get the FIRST Two Chapters of my soon to be released book – Uncrushed!
I believe that there is one thing that we can both agree on. None of us are immune to negative thoughts. Negative thoughts do not only occur for people with a negative mindset. Persons who are typically described as being positive, are also faced with negative or limiting thoughts. The difference lies in how we react to those thoughts or emotions.
For all of us, our way of thinking was formed over the years. In a large part, our parents contributed significantly to the shaping of our mindset. You see, how changes are introduced; the language used; punishments or reinforcements; comparisons made; all contribute to shaping a child’s belief, esteem and confidence.
Children then go out into society, into the formal education structure, social groups and social gatherings and their learnt beliefs are then reinforced by their experiences and how they interpret those experiences.
In my book Uncrushed – A Simple 3 Step Process to Break a Negative Mindset and Achieve Total Success in Life; I share some of my experiences which contributed to my low self-esteem and low confidence during my teenage years.
In the second chapter of my book, I talk about the overwhelming amount of shame and fear that emerged because of my experience of child abuse. I recount my mother’s hastiness to migrate in an effort to protect her children. Interestingly, that migration was also psychological for me. I buried my shame, fear and hurt deep within and convinced myself that I was being strong. Quite the contrary!
These are some of the things that we tell ourselves in an effort to protect our pain. Perhaps, it may be the psychological defence mechanism known as denial. Or, some would classify it as the mask that we put on. Whichever label that we will like to put on it, it doesn’t change the fact that buried trauma, unresolved pain, influence or contribute to our negative mindset or negative thinking.
A negative mindset is always accompanied by unhealthy thoughts. Undoubtedly, it is impossible to feel successful, hopeful and happy if we harbour unhealthy thoughts. Rather, unhealthy thoughts promote feelings of hopelessness, dissatisfaction, lowered confidence, self-sabotage, hurt and pain.
In my book Uncrushed, I address some of those unhelpful thoughts or negative thought patterns which plagued my mind. I talk about the importance of bringing them into captivity. I say captivity because we hold it, to assess it and therefore refuse it from infecting our mood, perception and behaviour.
I am here to tell you today, that you can become UNCRUSHABLE and be free from a negative mindset. There are many self-help books which educate you on how to achieve a successful mindset. It is important that you find what works for you. I nonetheless hope that you will find some value from my experience and the information that I shared. I draw from my past life experiences and created a simplified three step process to become UNCRUSHABLE.
So, click the link below to download the unedited version of the FIRST Two Chapters of my soon to be released book. I hope that you will enjoy reading them, as I enjoyed writing them.
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